 Christian or no Christian, your marriage is what you make of it. It can, in fact, be an unhealthy marriage all the while both partners are anointed and appointed and used mightily of God. It is false teaching to say that God does not bless your ministry and honor His own calling and anointing because the marriage is not going right.
You can live in sin and disobedience, and still be blessed. Yes, you can. Case in point: Moses. Did not God command Moses to smite the rock once? Moses, out of anger and frustration smote the rock twice. Two things happened:
First, God kept his word and immediately punished Moses for his disobedience. Moses was forbidden to step on or into the very Promised Land that was given to God’s people. Moses could see it, but not obtain it. It was the reward for his disobedience. 
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However, secondly, water still miraculously came out of the rock and quenched the thirst of a million of God’s people. Now, a miracle took place and Moses for all intended purposes is seen to all to be very mightily used of God; to which he was. But Moses was still in disobedience; yet used of God.
Don’t allow the twisted, non-biblical teaching that if God is pouring out His blessing, financial or otherwise, than your marriage relationship, or your own relationship with Him for that matter, is right. You can be at complete odds with your spouse and God, and still things will happen for you. That’s why we continue to teach and guide many to not look at the peripheral things, but the main target area, your marriage. If your marriage is unhealthy, than it’s unhealthy. |
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 Any joke of one’s spouse, whether over the pulpit, or in a private conversation, is at the very least disrespectful. As well, it displays to be a cry of anger possibly because of unresolved hurts that they do not know how else to communicate.
Gender-jokes are a tool of the enemy, which is disguised as a light-hearted, laughing matter, not to be taken seriously. “It’s only a joke” one prominent woman of God stated to me, obviously in a manner to demean my very conviction of the integrity of the subject matter. No matter which spouse says it, it is a destructive force that tears down the fabric of respect. Any joke of one’s spouse, whether over the pulpit, or in a private conversation, is on the surface, disrespectful; and in the depths of the heart, a cry of anger for an unresolved hurt by their spouse.
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Unfortunately, the lifestyles in church also take up in enormous amount of our lives to do such things. From being early every time the door opens to church work days, to fundraisers, to ministries and departments; to supporting other ministries on top of your own, to, well, you get the point.
But in doing all this, it is simply a tragedy that a huge percentage of these types of people are married couples, and families.
They don’t even realize that they are spending their time, energy and closeness on others. Yes, it is a good cause, but there is NO cause greater than your own home, marriage and family. If you are spending your marriage and family time, sacrificing that for anyone other than your spouse and family, you will destroy your marriage and family. And the sad part about this is that after it’s all said and done the very ones you helped while destroying your own marriage will not be there to kiss you good morning or hold you when you’re in pain. It was supposed to be your spouse. |
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“Once you have fasted, once you have prayed, once you have sought God with tears, get up and do what God has already empowered you to do even before you prayed: take responsibility for your actions, and don't put it on God.” |
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“A good relationship does not fall from heaven like manna; it comes from the hands of a loving spouse, and the heart of
a learned companion.” |
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